I have no problem with accepting the fact that I want my husband to slap me across the face, spank me, choke me a bit and otherwise use me thoroughly. Being taken care of is an entirely different story.
I’m coming down with one of those colds that’s just enough to make you feel like shit but not enough that you can justify staying in bed. Sunday I was feeling miserable and for the first time actually allowed myself to be taken care of. He told me to go back to bed in the morning, to take a nap in the afternoon, and to go to bed early that night. I actually laid next to him on the couch so he could stroke my hair and whisper, “I love you, pet,” to me several times that day. By the time the kids were in bed, I was a bit shaken because while I’ve always wanted this, I’ve never actually gotten it. The new dynamic allows me to lower those walls of control and finally ask for what I want and need, not what I think others will deem acceptable. So it’s freeing and scary at the same time.
The way our dynamic is unfolding feels like a natural extension of our marriage; the groundwork has been here the whole time but we’ve always avoided it because that’s not the way it’s supposed to be. I would think that I’d be reluctant to hand over this level of control over my daily life to him, but it’s something we’ve both wanted for years. It feels completely natural now to receive a list of chores in the morning or to ask him if I can use the computer or smoke a cigarette. The flip side is that I can be more affectionate with him, something I’ve always wanted but have never been sure how to ask for it. I can pout because circumstances are preventing us from playing that night and he can see just how much I desire him. I can finally let go of my public face with him.
I am so happy to call him Master and I feel so lucky to be his girl.